The Guide to Great Sex: How to Get Better in Bed and Take Your Sex Life to the Next Level by Michael Karp

Author:Michael Karp [Karp, Michael]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Published: 2016-01-25T00:00:00+00:00

Chapter 10

THE ART OF THE TRANSITION

Sex is a fluid performance. It’s dynamic, flowing from one thing to another.

Or at least, that is what’s supposed to happen…

When I first started having sex, my repertoire consisted of three positions: partner on top, missionary, and doggy style. And I usually rotated through them in that same order.

There was no flow. It was just, “Okay, you’ve been on top for a while. Let’s move to missionary. Okay, that’s enough of missionary. How about some doggy style? Alright, let’s mix it up again with a little missionary.”

This doesn’t mean it was bad sex. We were both satisfied. But it didn’t have the natural flow it could have had, which gives you the fiery, passionate sex that’s always raved about.

What was missing from my sex life in the early days was deliberate transition from one move to another.

For one, I wasn’t comfortable enough to be assertive in my decisions just yet. I also didn’t have enough in the memory bank to pull from when it was time to do something else.

All of this came with experience and knowledge, but there is something to be said about consciously understanding The Art of the Transition.

Sexual Flow – Piecing Everything Together

Luckily, you’ve read everything up until now and should have a good amount of activities to choose from in the bedroom. Let’s piece them together into something with sexual flow.

We’re going to break this down in a way that isn’t necessarily the sexiest possible, but it will make it understandable and actionable.

The typical sexual flow goes something like this:

Foreplay —> Oral Sex —> Sex —> Orgasm(s) —> Come down/refractory period

Of course, one phase or the other is skipped sometimes, and I get that this isn’t typical of the entire population. But it’s the easiest way for me to explain this concept.

We’re going to detail the same general flow, but add much more between “Oral Sex” and “Orgasm(s).”

What have we learned so far that we could add in? What choices do you have?

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